Tomorrow is my birthday and I feel so happy and so excited for it to start. I am literally counting hours! With a birthday coming, I am not getting any younger. Infact I will be finishing 28 and entering 29, though I still feel like 22 ;). With each passing birthday I am losing my years, my beauty and my time and yet I feel happy. What is it exactly that I am happy about?
On thinking about it, I feel the excitement is to look at the website my husband has made for me, to write a new article on my birthday and inaugurate the website! I literally can’t wait! I am excited for eating my cake, meeting my friends, going shopping with my husband and having a nice family dinner. If I think about it, most of the things that I am excited for involves me doing some activity with my husband, but is this day really about me and my husband? My anniversary is a day about me and my husband as we started living together from that day on, but is really birthday about us? Or is birthday about me, since I began on life on this day?
The more I think, the more I realize that this day more than a celebration with friends, boyfriend or husband, should be a celebration with mother, a mother who, 28 years ago, on this very day, went through extra ordinary pain, hope and happiness (all at once) when giving birth to me, a person she dedicated the rest of her life to, a person who became her first priority, a priority over every other relation. It was my birth, something that I didn’t even understand on that day, but it was a defining day for her that changed the direction of her life, where she understood the enormity of what was coming! It should be a celebration with a father, who was overwhelmed on my arrival in this world, who experienced extraordinary feelings on holding me, a part of him in his hands for the first time, who experienced a life starting. It should be a celebration with him, as on this day all his plans changed. His life became more about planning my life, my education and providing me with the best of everything and less about working for his likes. With age passing, we being humans and great at forgetting the good someone does for us, forget things our parents did for us and get busy with life. We celebrate this day with the ones who are important to us then. Instead, celebrate this day with someone who has always been important to your life and always will be, from the day you are born till the current day, someone who realizes the importance of this day, someone who experienced extraordinary feelings on this day. Celebrate this day with your parents. On your birthday, instead of expecting presents from them, give them a present for making you able enough for you to see this day, the present of a “thank you”, the present of a hug, the present of gratitude, acknowledging the pains they have gone through to make you who you are. Give them the credit for what they deserve the most and of what they are proud of all the time, give them the credit for whatever you are today, for had they not been there, you would not have been as happy, as trusting and as successful a person you are. I would not have been so good at whatever I do as I am now.
So Thank you Mom and thank you Dad for your unconditional love, for all your sacrifices, of which I can’t even make a list as it would fill up more than a hundred pages, for teaching me the values of life, for tolerating me in my teenage when I, instead of acknowledging your sacrifices, always complained, for showing me the right path when I was going towards the wrong one and yet giving me the freedom to live life my way, for making me capable to support myself in case of any adversity, for letting me chose my path once I was independent, for coping up with the new age and technology to understand us, for letting me make my choices and supporting them, for making me who I am today and for being proud of me. Thank you for having the courage of letting me, a piece of your heart, go to start a new life with someone else when you must have needed me the most. I might never have acknowledged it, but today I do! I am so lucky to have you as my parents, I am so proud of you for making me who I am today, for making your life all about my happiness. I love you more than I can ever express!
Happy birthday Mom and Dad for on this day along with me, I know that a new you was born too!